Are you a fighter? Do you engage in constant resistance about the things you do not want to happen? Do you consciously or subconsciously feed energy to your deepest fears and "don't wants"?
I know I often do. I'm only just now learning to tap into them and stop them. It's a gradual progression. So, what ends up happening when you give those fears energy? They manifest. They become your reality.
I recently was reminded of my fears manifesting when a repeat experience happened again out of fear. I always wonder why I attract people with similar behaviors into my life. I thought I was on a new and better frequency, but then my subconscious fears took over, and they manifested. I felt like the wind was knocked out of me, yet again.
On this journey to personal alignment, I'll notice I'm feeling bad or negative about something, and have to consciously choose to control my mind and take a different direction that is inline with my desires. It's not always an easy choice to make, not at first, anyway. Sometimes, realigning means choosing to love yourself instead of sacrificing. It may mean turning away from negativity.
As I continue on this quest of choosing gratitude, happiness and joy, I'm reminded to also practice the art of allowing. This means choosing to allow rather listening to doubt or fear. My intuition will tell me if I'm feeling resistance towards something. That either means I need to adjust my attitude or go in a different direction. It's up to you to find what the place of allowing is for you.
For example, I received two very large bills in the mail in one week. My initial reaction was to moan and groan about how unfair it felt to get them both so close together. Now, I see I need to choose to be grateful that I have been responsible enough to save so that I can pay for them. I need to be grateful that I have a wonderful job that I love, which will help me pay for them. The bills arrived because I received services I needed. The bill helps to fund the services for others and myself in the future. I took one bill and wrote "Thank you" across the back to create a feeling of gratitude for what I am able to do.
Allowing does not mean putting yourself down, sacrificing yourself or allowing yourself to be treated with disrespect or abuse. That isn't love. Loving yourself comes first. When you are truly aligned with yourself, self-respect and self love, then you can distinguish when you need to stand up for yourself or choose love even if it's not exactly what you want right then. That's often how you deal with disappointment. When you practice the art of allowing, the bad things turn into guides to better things rather than fueling the fire towards more bad things.
I encourage you to follow that place of peace and allowance as you walk through your decisions each day. Listen to your intuition and ask it where you feel allowing or resistance. It is certain to be a better guide than fighting our conscious and subconscious selves. Allow yourself because you can!